Saturday, April 13, 2019

Dear Mom, I’m learning...

It has been quite a few crazy months for us. In fact it’s been a crazy year so far. 
I asked my mom if I could write about this journey of ours and she said yes.
I know that there are many others walking through similar struggles and I hope that my transparency will be of some encouragement, for you to know that you are not alone. 

Who’s report will you believe?
About 7 weeks ago we were told that my mom may never walk again after suffering a stroke and that she will be wheel chair bound... (it was a build up to the stroke but we’ll unpack all of it that in future blogs).
Well, Mom came home from rehab this week and has been taking steps with her walker. 
The thing is, we could have easily just accepted defeat but we chose not to. We didn’t even tell our mother their observations until recently, we simply stayed positive and kept encouraging mom. We told her that she would walk out of the rehab. She may have left the rehab in a wheelchair but she walked into the house with her walker. ( inserts a huge smile)

Role change:
Week 1 as a full time caregiver has been challenging for me, it’s been pruning and a lot of failing forward but I am learning daily. Sometimes it feels like I don’t always know if I’m doing the right thing you know. I simply had a few training days with my mother’s occupational therapist and her physical therapist but it’s all new to me. Even so I am grateful that I had the opportunity to be trained at all. 

The lesson:
Right now I’m learning to have patience, I always thought I was a patient person and I guess I am but I was never tested in the area of my parents! Ha ha! I was in another country for so long so as an adult, I thought my patience was in tact until I moved home! Boy oh boy was I wrong. Living back with the parentals at this age is a challenge jack (blog for another day) 
So I guess I’m embracing the season, and the lesson. I am definitely still studying and have yet to pass this test, but we will get there! 

I know that the journey ahead will not be easy but I surrender to the now and all that comes along with it because I know I am not alone in this. I know that there will be challenges and still a lot of change to adapt to but God is with me and I have phenomenal support from my family and close friends. I’m learning but I want to learn because this time with my parents is priceless, it is time we don’t ever get back. So I am honored to be one this journey with them, no matter how hard it gets! 

You never know what lies behind the smile of another... 
The one scripture that has been a staple in my life  in this season is   “And do not be worried, for the joy of the LORD is your strength and your stronghold.””
‭‭NEHEMIAH‬ ‭8:10‬ ‭AMP‬‬
https://www.bible.com/bible/1588/neh.8.10.amp

Stay encouraged my dear friend. You may be facing your own battle right now, but you are not alone. 
The joy of the Lord is your strength!

5 comments:

  1. Wow, Lois hope mom gets well very soon. It's a whole different ball game being a caregiver to a parent. It is always easier when you have the support of family..

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  2. Sending you much love dearest. big hug to Mom.

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  3. So sorry that ma'am Sybil had a stroke Lois. It must be a tough journey for her and the rest of the family. Praying for 100% recovery for her and lots of patience and kindness from you....

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  4. Thanks for sharing cuz, so encouraging to hear your journey <3

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