Why are You Single???

A Question I get asked Often

Many times by Guys, who claim to know all the reasons why and then go down the list of what I'm doing wrong...

First they start with, Well are you putting yourself out there? 
Are you approachable, Are your standards too high? What kind of men do you like? The list goes on and on. 

When I say, I've been told I'm intimidating the list of what's wrong with me continues..

Yes you do come across as intimidating? Me, are you intimidated by me? No... But I can see how guys can be... 

These conversations are both funny and irritating to me because it's as if I've done something wrong in today's society that I'm single. 

I had a gentleman tell me you're not sexy enough.... You don't show enough... Yes he was in church too lol... I've always thought I had a good balance with my modesty lol... 

So my thoughts on this subject are, It will come.... I've had my share of boyfriends in my 20's boys who played with my heart and mostly I allowed it. I didn't know what I was doing then... I had my share of relationships... Good and bad. I learned many lessons.... Lessons that made me want to choose better for me!!

I've seen guys post so many things on Facebook and social media about how women want this and that and how we're this and that... Then watch those same guys get into relationships with girls, string them along for the sake of convenience sometimes for over a year then dump them at the site of a new hottie.... And then have the nerve to ask me Why are You single? 

Well... I am... For now I am and I've been and will be okay with being single till He comes along!

He that I am attracted to, who Loves God more than me, challenges my mind, uplifts my spirit and makes me laugh. He that is Not racist, loves culture and languages and loves to travel. He who is kind not only in public but behind doors!! He who has a dream, a vision, and who supports my dreams and vision because we understand that we are two whole individuals and that we cannot complete each other, only compliment each other!!! He who still believes in integrity, shivery and respect!! He who is as passionate as I am about serving others and helping the least of these. He who I can't fully describe because I do not know but I hope and I have Faith for the best God has for me! He who will capture my heart in his own unique way.... And I will oblige... 

Am I closed to dating.... Not at All
Am I opposed to getting to know people.. Not at all...

What I refuse to continue doing is defending why I'm single and what is "wrong" with me.... I'm not impatient when it comes to Love because I Believe it's worth waiting for.... 

At the end of the day.... I believe God's plan for me is Perfect! And daily I'm walking in it... So I Trust God even when I can't see it... Yet!

Shout out to All the Beautiful Single ladies waiting on He..... 
Be Patient Love is Always on time!!!

If you're not Growing... You're Dying...

There comes a time in life where you Stop complaining about stuff and honestly just try to focus on why you are there. 

You get to a point where you realize that every experience Great or Small, challenging or easy has been a lesson you've had to learn or a test you have had to pass. 

You come to the understanding that these life lessons have given you Character, built your Faith and are continually sculpting you into the piece of Art you are created to be! Beautifully Complex!  

So now the view of your journey changes. 

You begin to understand the importance of Self Love, Self affirmation, Your own language and communication. 

How you address others and how you choose to be addressed. 

How much you give to others and how much you give to yourself! Your eyes begin to open to the possibilities of greatness because finally you see yourself the way God created you! Great! 

Once the scales fall off your eyes and you just see yourself, For who you are, without your make up and add ons... You begin to understand the importance of the gift of life that God has given you! No longer can you jut sit around and wait... You value Life, the talents God has given you and the purpose for your journey!!!

You now Live, Love and Dream Authentically on Purpose!!!

You don't just chase your wildest dream! But you Plan, strategically placing steps in order to see those dreams come to pass!! You don't just wait for doors to open for you, you go knocking until you find the one meant for you!!! You no longer underestimate your value! Yes many may have used your gift but you don't regret it, you appreciate and thank those who took a risk and chance on you... You realize the importance of sowing and giving to others and you just believe that one day someone will do the same for you!!!! Because with every seed sown comes a harvest, be it good or bad. So you own every seed you've sown and wait for the harvest. 

Most importantly you come to Understand that You Never stop Learning! 

You Never Stop Growing!!!! 

If you're not Growing, you're dying.....  

Like a seed you have to be planted deep in the ground and take root.... Slowly your branches start to grow. You have to be watered, growing is a process.... 

A process that takes time. 

But time waits for no one... So you jump fearlessly into the unknown and take a chance on You!!!

Then time becomes your friend... Every second counts....

What are you doing with your life? Are you just filling the gaps given to you or are you taking dominion and walking into your promise? 

What you do is a choice! 

A choice you have to make!

No more procrastination, No more Fear! 

Just Living life on Purpose going towards your promise!!! 

What is holding you back from getting closer to your promise today?? 

Are you Growing?

Or

Are a you Dying?? 

#FoodForThought